Have you ever had that person in your life that would talk about you in a positive light in public and private? I’ve had a few of those and I flock to them. They are beacons of light and encouragement which make the workplace better and everyone knows their name.
After a year of transitioning from Colorado, gathering all of the information, and passing my NCMHCE exam, I have formally been approved with the title Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor.
If you haven’t been watching the news, something I actually proudly stake a claim in, you probably still have heard about the concerns of reports of immigrants and their families. It’s no secret the United States government is attempting to remove many immigrants from the United States who do not have formal documentation to be in the country. Some are for this, others against. On May 7th, Jeff Sessions, current acting Attorney General of the United States implemented a zero tolerance expectation with the immigration policy, which you can read here. The concern is over a very specific statement in the policy:
If you are smuggling a child, then we will prosecute you and that child will be separated from you as required by law.
This upcoming anniversary will be my wife and mine’s tenth wedding anniversary. In that time, who we were separately and as a couple together in a relationship is completely different than what it is now. We have grown individually, we have grown together, and we have also hit barriers in marriage and as parents. But I would not want to do this thing called life with anyone else other than her.
As a counselor, I’m always looking at techniques and tools to help people grow closer together. One of the forefront techniques out there comes from the Gottman Institute, who look at how to make relationships stronger. They are not Christian based, but the assessments (linked here) are so powerful, it would be a disservice not to use them. I’d like to encourage you guys to use these tools for your marriage. The brief description tells you about the tool and almost always you are filling them out separately, to then come back together to have a conversation.
My wife and I will be doing them as well and I’d love to hear if this might help your marriage.
I’d encourage if you and your loved one are having significant problems, to go seek counseling first, as I share these tools specifically for enriching what is already on a positive foothold. And if you have any questions about what you got, I’d be happy to chat, as a friend not as your counselor. 😉