If you haven’t been watching the news, something I actually proudly stake a claim in, you probably still have heard about the concerns of reports of immigrants and their families. It’s no secret the United States government is attempting to remove many immigrants from the United States who do not have formal documentation to be in the country. Some are for this, others against. On May 7th, Jeff Sessions, current acting Attorney General of the United States implemented a zero tolerance expectation with the immigration policy, which you can read here. The concern is over a very specific statement in the policy:
If you are smuggling a child, then we will prosecute you and that child will be separated from you as required by law.
This upcoming anniversary will be my wife and mine’s tenth wedding anniversary. In that time, who we were separately and as a couple together in a relationship is completely different than what it is now. We have grown individually, we have grown together, and we have also hit barriers in marriage and as parents. But I would not want to do this thing called life with anyone else other than her.
As a counselor, I’m always looking at techniques and tools to help people grow closer together. One of the forefront techniques out there comes from the Gottman Institute, who look at how to make relationships stronger. They are not Christian based, but the assessments (linked here) are so powerful, it would be a disservice not to use them. I’d like to encourage you guys to use these tools for your marriage. The brief description tells you about the tool and almost always you are filling them out separately, to then come back together to have a conversation.
My wife and I will be doing them as well and I’d love to hear if this might help your marriage.
I’d encourage if you and your loved one are having significant problems, to go seek counseling first, as I share these tools specifically for enriching what is already on a positive foothold. And if you have any questions about what you got, I’d be happy to chat, as a friend not as your counselor. 😉
I am a huge fan of dreaming of, creating, and working towards goals for one’s self. So New Years is an extra little special time for me because many different people are wanting to create goals for themselves and I feel extra festive. Last year, I had the goal of being able to work towards running a marathon which ultimately did not work out because of a medical condition. But just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean I need to stop, in fact, this seems to strengthen my resolve. So I have come up with a couple of new goals for myself for 2018.
So recently I experienced a major shift in my life because I was being triggered into having migraines. The whole issue about migraines is not only just the pain it brings, but also you end up changing your entire life because you have a fear you may have another migraine attack. You change your entire schedule so you are always at home, near medication, or able to just leave at a moment’s call. Some of the things that may possibly trigger a migraine, you immediately stop. And the things that you are having fun doing and the goals that you have set for yourself are now not the most important thing. It has to be about your health it has to be about this thing that’s happened to you.